A few weeks ago, as my birthday and my mother’s birthday approached, I found myself missing her even more. I was feeling down, and with the recent loss of our older sister on June 13, 2025, the grief really hit hard. Of all things, I decided to check Facebook to look at posts from relatives who are content creators—it always lifts my spirits to see their work. Even though I haven’t met most of them in person, we’ve connected through social media. But as soon as I opened Facebook, something awful caught my eye, and of all days, it had to be then. I usually have “people you may know” turned off, but for some reason, it popped up that day. I can’t even remember if it was afternoon or night, just that I saw it. The first person on the list was someone I’d blocked years ago, but she seems to create endless accounts, and I hadn’t seen one in a long time.
I don’t usually vent on social media, but that day I felt the need to share a memory that came to mind after seeing someone. Unfortunately, it was a relative, though I didn’t mention who. I sent her a message saying “the nerve” and thought I had blocked her, as I definitely didn’t want to see her. Turns out I hadn’t, and she sent me messages to which I replied a few times, telling her she was rude. She fired back with nasty comments, and I guess she got tired of typing because she started calling me on Messenger repeatedly. I don’t answer Facebook calls, and I certainly didn’t want to hear her awful voice. I made sure she was blocked for real this time.
Unbeknownst to me, her sister saw the post, and even though I didn’t mention a name, she made it publicly known that it was her sister. She’s such a drama queen—if she hadn’t said anything, no one would’ve known. I guess guilty people always feel the need to make excuses and play the victim. I read some of her posts and replied to a few, letting her know I never mentioned a name, and the only reason people know is that she exposed it herself.
Their drama “pa victim effect” continues. While we continue to live our lives happy and at peace, that is all that matters.
